Inner Peace to True Love (The First Edition)

Welcome to my blog,

I hope you enjoy reading the things I share, the inside story of my life and my journey through inner peace to true love. Follow me as I learn and grow on this ever changing journey called LIFE . What I share comes from the heart, it doesn’t mean I’m right or wrong it’s just my thoughts and views on life, happiness, women, men and dating. If you can relate, feel free to share your story too.

How I came to be ‘Me’….

I never realized how much my life experiences impacted on my life until recently. In the last 10 years I’ve met people from across the globe, had random conversations with friends, family and strangers, online dated until it came out my ears, been on countless first dates, had relationships that were – lets just say dynamic and interesting, mixed with individuals from all social classes, experienced aspects of the good (and also bad) life and have had every job under the sun, which combined has lead me to this point in my life. 3 years ago I started suffering from anxiety, each day I felt overwhelmed, tired, stressed, disoriented and disconnected with life. I felt strange and was overwhelmed with how fast my brain would process information, which resulted in me no longer seeing the world in the same light. It felt like I’d woken up from a lifetime long dream. I tried my best to carry on as normal, working, dating and exploring the world as much as possible but each day I began to question my very existence in a detached haze. I started going back through my entire life trying to make sense of it and who I was, digging around, uncovering painful stuff, confronting my fears, laughing, crying and discovering the real me, who I really was and why things so far have happened the way they have. The last 3-4 years (in particular) have lead me to an awakening of what I can only describe as my soul. For the first time in my life I’ve been able to see what’s inside, beyond the good and bad times, beyond the emotions, to the core of who I am. When I saw who I was for the first time I think I cried with joy, wow, it felt so peaceful and amazing. Since then I’ve realized that everything that I’ve been through has lead me to this point and I have now discovered my purpose on earth – to help people unearth the happiness that lies within and help those truly happy individuals find love. I’m now a love architect and have made it my mission to help people find love and happiness however that maybe, through my own personal journey, trials and tribulations. The more I unearth, the more I will share to help others on their journey. I’ve discovered that the relationship journey starts with the person looking for love, not with tips on how to date.

Love, laughter, trust, honesty and great friendship I have learnt are some of the keys to forming and maintaining a long lasting loving relationship (amongst afew other things). The more I look the more I see that relationships are formed with each person looking for someone to complete them (their life) and once they’ve found the right person, they wait for all of the ‘keys’ to happen naturally. This can happen sometimes, but for many of us it takes alittle more hard work, trying, ups and downs and a lot of nice times to balance out the bad. But what not many people know is that relationships should be a free flowing partnership, that shouldn’t require as much work as we’ve been taught, if we establish a relationship with ourselves first. We often focus on working hard at all other aspects of life e.g. work, relationship, fitness, hobbies etc but not so much on our inner (emotional) wellbeing. This is where the hard work should start. A house is built on solid foundations and we (as an individual) are the house. If you try to build a house on foundations that aren’t solid, the house will fall down; the same thing applies to ourselves. We often attempt at building relationships, friendships and careers on unsteady foundations encountering struggles, difficulties and many failures along the way, but if we were to strengthen our foundations we’d have more success and an easier ride.

I’m making it my mission to grow, learn and discover the key to a happy and successful life/relationship. Join me on my journey through single life to a commited life and let’s heal our past, learn from our experiences and embark on the journey of true love together.




Why Some Relationships Don’t Work Out

Relationships: Problems, Healing And Searching

I was approached by a couple the other day after they heard (through a friend) about my journey and what I believe in – a self healing journey that leads to a soulmate relationship. I was deeply moved by the couples commitment to each other and their willingness to deepen the relationship, after recently admitting that things weren’t working out. It was so brave of them to come out and say this after being together 2.5years, but the biggest thing that shocked me, was the fact that they could identify with their problems and be honest with themselves enough to say let’s try work it out. The couple went on to say that their relationship had reached great difficulties, they’d lost their connection due to arguments and Chris (not his real name but the husband) had started to look to other women for attention. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard and witnessed relationships like this – including my own past relationships. So often we enter into a relationship and things are great for awhile. Then when our hormones rebalance (after spending months synced in deep lust) and the intensity of the connection begins to wane, we fine ourselves stressed and arguing over irrelevant little things.

I feel the reason why this happens in so many relationships, is because we haven’t yet dealt with issues from our past. I discovered somewhere near the start of my deep healing (after unraveling who I really am) that there were 2-3 root causes that drove all of my behaviour. These root causes were responsible for my moods, character, ability to love, trust, work, approach to money, insecurities, happiness, who I chose to be with…..EVERYTHING, even down to the clothes I wore each day. But what I also realised is that every one of my root causing problems stemmed from my childhood and after a little more digging/unraveling, some were even ancestral patterns passed down which no longer serve me in todays modern world. What a discovery! Everything that we experience as children (good or not so good), builds our character, defines us and shapes us into the adult that we are today. And when we fail to make a conscious effort to heal our past (whether traumatic or mini school) our issues eventually resurface, preventing us from being able to sort out relationship problems amicably; hence why Chris and Angela can’t get past the difficulties within their relationship. Our past well and truly determines our future.

‘Just like a pressure cooker, everything that goes in, must come out.’ – Me

Through Chris and Angela’s story it has made me realise that, as difficult as this healing inner peace journey is, it’s one of the best things that I’ve ever done. I now feel peaceful and secure inside, where before there was sadness. I now know who I really am and what my soul looks like. I’ve reached new depths of love within my being and it’s only now that I can resume my soulmate search.

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