Yoni Steam: How It Changed Me

A Healing Song and A Yoni Steam

I’ve been wanting to have a yoni steam since mid last year, so when Claire Stone from Sacred Yoni Steam UK posted on Facebook that she was holding a special Bespoke Yoni Steam event, I jumped at the chance. For those not familiar with a yoni steam, it’s a vaginal steam that can help with things like painful periods, increasing fertility and Fibroids, aswell as removing the energy of past partners and healing the repression that we’re born into as women. The event took place at Claire’s home where she created a cosy candle lit healing space, with an Archangel Michael crystal grid. We gave her our intentions prior to the evening so she could make up a special blend of herbs which we sat over for 30mins whilst meditating on what we wanted to let go of and new things that we wanted to welcome in. The main reason I wanted to experience a steam was to remove the energy of past partners, as I’d heard that when a man orgasms inside of you, his energy can stay with you for years afterwards. But because Claire said the more intentions the better, I wrote a list based on what I’d like help with on this current stage of my inner peace journey.

My Intentions

Remove energy of past partners, Self acceptance/love, To feel more grounded, Help maintaining the feeling of happiness, Clear stagnant energy in my womb, Prepare my womb for pregnancy, Unblock my root chakra, Allow clear vision so that I can decide the next stages of my job/life purpose.

The morning of my steam I came on my period and Claire said that in her research it stated that it’s not recommended to steam whilst menstruating, but it didn’t specify why. I had a look online and there was no reason stating it was dangerous so I decided to go ahead and do it with Claire’s authorisation: I am now so glad that I made that decision. There was something so beautiful and scared about having a steam on my moon, as I sat bum to chair whilst the herbs worked on clearing/setting my intentions. Earlier that day my friend joked around saying ‘I’m sure your womb won’t fall out into the pan go and have it done’ and she was so right, it felt so special and far from dangerous.

It was the next 36 hours that things began to change. During the yoni steam I started to get anxiety which lasted for the next 24 hours. Anxiety is something that I suffer from, and despite the yoni steam experience and the beautiful space Claire created, once my anxiety comes on there’s no stopping it. So when I got home I pretty much went straight to bed. After afew hours I woke up to empty my moon cup (another thing I wanted to try for ages and bought whilst at Claire’s) but couldn’t sleep, so I decided to look up a song I’d heard on Classic FM earlier that day. The song is called Parce Mihi Domine by The Hilliard Ensemble and Jan Garabeck and I was so moved by this piece of music, that I had it on repeat all weekend. But there was something about this song and how it was working with the yoni steam experience that really got me. Each time I listened to the song it felt like the sounds were healing my body and working with the effects of the steam. It was almost as if the sound of each instrument wrapped gently around each of my (letting go) intentions and dissolved them into peace and love. It was truly magical and quite a profound experience. By the time it got to Sunday night my anxiety had gone, I felt lighter, present and more grounded and as I brushed my teeth before bed I laughed at how amazingly happy I felt.

Also over the course of the weekend, aswell as crying alot whilst listening to the song doing a hell of alot of releasing, I had many realisations and epiphany moments about life. But the two biggest things that I realised were that, being on my moon was a time to go deeper into myself not just a simple cleanse of the body. And that a deep transformation can happen when you least expect it.

P.s. If anyone would like to get in contact with Claire about a steam (I highly recommend) here are her Facebook details – Sacred Yoni Steam UK and Claire’s Crystal Cavern. She also sells crystals, jewellery, moon cups and yoni eggs.




Slavery Still Exits

The deepest form of conditioning….

Are those working hard, 40 hrs a week, to fulfil somebody else’s dream?

Only having 1 or 2 holidays a year?

Finding enjoyment in alcohol?

Having little time to do the things they really enjoy?

Who think that’s just the way life is?
Well it isn’t, slavery still exits.

Figure out your dreams,


Decide how you spend your days,

Recycle, reuse, regift and stop wasting,

With the money saved…..

Take one day off a month,

spending it how you like,

doing things that make you happy,

working towards your dreams.

YOUR journey starts now.

Why Some Relationships Don’t Work Out

Relationships: Problems, Healing And Searching

I was approached by a couple the other day after they heard (through a friend) about my journey and what I believe in – a self healing journey that leads to a soulmate relationship. I was deeply moved by the couples commitment to each other and their willingness to deepen the relationship, after recently admitting that things weren’t working out. It was so brave of them to come out and say this after being together 2.5years, but the biggest thing that shocked me, was the fact that they could identify with their problems and be honest with themselves enough to say let’s try work it out. The couple went on to say that their relationship had reached great difficulties, they’d lost their connection due to arguments and Chris (not his real name but the husband) had started to look to other women for attention. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard and witnessed relationships like this – including my own past relationships. So often we enter into a relationship and things are great for awhile. Then when our hormones rebalance (after spending months synced in deep lust) and the intensity of the connection begins to wane, we fine ourselves stressed and arguing over irrelevant little things.

I feel the reason why this happens in so many relationships, is because we haven’t yet dealt with issues from our past. I discovered somewhere near the start of my deep healing (after unraveling who I really am) that there were 2-3 root causes that drove all of my behaviour. These root causes were responsible for my moods, character, ability to love, trust, work, approach to money, insecurities, happiness, who I chose to be with…..EVERYTHING, even down to the clothes I wore each day. But what I also realised is that every one of my root causing problems stemmed from my childhood and after a little more digging/unraveling, some were even ancestral patterns passed down which no longer serve me in todays modern world. What a discovery! Everything that we experience as children (good or not so good), builds our character, defines us and shapes us into the adult that we are today. And when we fail to make a conscious effort to heal our past (whether traumatic or mini school) our issues eventually resurface, preventing us from being able to sort out relationship problems amicably; hence why Chris and Angela can’t get past the difficulties within their relationship. Our past well and truly determines our future.

‘Just like a pressure cooker, everything that goes in, must come out.’ – Me

Through Chris and Angela’s story it has made me realise that, as difficult as this healing inner peace journey is, it’s one of the best things that I’ve ever done. I now feel peaceful and secure inside, where before there was sadness. I now know who I really am and what my soul looks like. I’ve reached new depths of love within my being and it’s only now that I can resume my soulmate search.

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Strangers and Dating

How talking to strangers can directly benefit my love life

Whether you want to call it a closed hearted, lack of social skills or insecurity, the fact is, we walk past hundreds of people everyday day and ignore everyone one of them. But I’m beginning to realise how this has a knock on effect on dating. Recently I’ve become aware of the awkwardness we show around people that we don’t know- the people on the bus, in the gym, next to us in the queue – we ignore everyone around us. But why? I know that for me it boils down to lack of self confidence, fear of judgement and simply the fear of the unknown. I feel all sorts of uncomfortable with a hint of shyness when having to start (or instigate) a conversation with somebody that I have no idea where they’re from, what they like and how they’ll react to my random conversation(s). It’s strange that most of us feel this way, because human interaction is the most natural thing alive. But if it’s so natural, why don’t we like doing it?

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After analysing afew months of my behaviour (and others) I began to realise that closing ourselves off to others, stunts us in so many other areas in life and can often make us miss opportunities that are presented before us. Here’s an example: I’m living my normal life (rarely speaking to anyone I see) when I see a nice looking chap standing before me in a queue. I internalise starting a conversation, us smiling at each other and maybe one of us asking the other out before we go our separate ways. Then, a sudden flash of fear washes over me and I have a second mental thought of him ignoring me and his girlfriend walking over. Now, if I was in the habit of talking to strangers and starting beautifully random conversations with people from all walks of life – aswell as living my ‘Don’t judge’ approach to life – how much easier would sparking up a conversation with hotstuff be. I’d use my self confidence, experience and new found social skills to follow my heart to which ever person it took me too. And if he did so happen to have a girlfriend, she’d smile and honour the courage it took for me to speak out, understanding that I too am on my quest for love.

I’m not saying that we’re all socially inept, but in general, we’re all so afraid to speak to strangers. Is this because our parents once told us that speaking to strangers was forbidden and it’s stuck with us ever since? I’m not, sure but I’m so sure that if we all got used to speaking to people we don’t know more often, it would have a positive impact and a direct effect on our single life. There’d be more opportunity, with the probability of meeting someone being significantly increased.

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I would class myself as confident in other areas of my life but not this one. I can talk to shop assistants and respond naturally to someone asking for directions or about something I’m wearing, but anything beyond this drifts out of my comfort zone. As part of my New Year’s resolution I’m going to try talking more when I’m out and about to see what happens. Imagine if we all made a conscious movement towards showing warmth towards strangers and engaging in smiles, laughter and nice (random) conversations. Imagine after afew times practising how confident we’d feel approaching the opposite sex. Imagine that no one would care about the embarrassment/shame of what might be. Imagine there was no judgement from the receiver of our spontaneity. Imagine the possibilities.

Food for thought

#innerpeacetotruelove   #strangersdating

Quote: Soulmate Ready 

Divine Accordance

When you’re soul is ready, you’re soulmate will appear. Love knows no time and isn’t bound by time. Love is limitless and it’s depths are endless. I’m healing so deeply at the minute, but I know that when my soul is ready to surface and I’m ready, I will meet my soulmate in divine accordance.

‘Love is a journey not a destination’


Relationships: 1+1=1

The Mathematics Of Wholeness

Over the last few weeks various discussions have arisen in the Facebook group The Dating Circle, but the more comments I see the more I’m realising how much we (as a race) don’t fully understand the meaning of true love and being whole. I’m a massive believer that a person must be happy and whole within their being, in order to have a truly happy and fulfilled relationship. I’ve touched upon this in afew other posts, but whilst out walking I got the idea for this post to further help people (me and everyone else who is in need of alittle guidance) visualise the meaning of ‘wholeness’ and the importance of it when journeying towards true love.

If we compare people to single cells and imagine we’re looking under a microscope. Imagine us (as individuals) each represent one cell which is complete and whole, yet through conditioning we’ve ended up feeling that half of our wholeness/fulfilment is missing. Cells start out whole and when merged together, they still form a whole. There aren’t any half cells floating around looking for other half cells to complete them. 1 merges with 1 to make 1. We too must become whole again in order to find true happiness and true love. Most of us are unknowingly currently searching as half cells, looking for other half cells to complete us, but this isn’t the way it works. If you want a mediocre relationships where the spark fizzles out and you just exist like brother and sister or friends in the same household, then the half cell theory will work. But if you want the real deal, it’s important to focus on becoming whole again: becoming 1.

So many of us are looking far outside of our own being for love and happiness, looking for that someone special to complete us, to make us whole, that it’s becoming an exhausting struggle. One that I now see is out of desperation or loneliness. But one thing I know for sure, is that a relationship formed for the wrong reasons will not last and will still leave you feeling lost, empty and unfulfilled after some time. Why? Because each person must work on becoming whole, in order to have anything close to the real fairytale. Any anger, sadness, loniless, hurt or emotional blockages must be addressed or at least acknowledged for you to have the relationship of your dreams. Exploring these depths of the heart, will uncover true treasures and you’ll be overflowing with an abundance of love. Not only will you heal past hurts, but you’ll start to understand who you really are, what your soulmate looks like and what type of person you’d really like to spend the rest of your life with. Like attracts like. When you find the real you and become whole, will you attract the right person to add to your wholeness.

    Find the treasure at the bottom of your heart.

Like I always say…

‘I want the world to be in love, first with self, then with each other.’

Thank you to my lovely friend Maria for the title inspiration.